My Perfect Lover

                           I have been tagged by Varun and then DestinyLaw. This tag business is funny and makes me use more grey cells than I want to. But it reminds me of stupid (yet fun) games we used to play in school like Truth and Dare. Here is my take on the tag - My perfect lover (as if such a thing ever existed)

  • Intelligent - Definitely a big turn on for me; although sometimes I do think ignorance is bliss. But I think I will settle for intelligence over beauty any day, if I find them together in a package, nothing better. I firmly believe your intelligence reflects your attitude towards life and helps you take on life more head on.
  • Educated - Related to point one. A decent education is a must.
  • Independent - Must have her own individuality in this world and have her own life, which will eventually mingle with mine of course. It is very important that she becomes my partner and not subordinate or dependent. She must respect her independence and should not give it up for anything, including me, as I would do the same. She must also respect my and her private space.
  • Opinionated - should be opinionated and be aware and concerned about the world around us. Chicks who want to lock themselves in a small shell of their own along with their family are a strict no-no. Our opinions need not match and she shouldn’t give up her opinions at any cost, even for me. On the same token, she shouldn’t expect me to give up mine.
  • Broadminded and a rebel - Must be broadminded, optimistic, non-biased and be able to apply logic to most things rather than seeing them through the lenses of the society. Also, a very important is that she should be ready to rebel against the society for her opinions and beliefs, should she believe she is right. By no means should she ever let her actions be influenced by the fear, pressure or beliefs of the society. If I rebel over a cause which she thinks is right, I would expect her by my side, however, is she thinks the cause is wrong, I wouldn’t want her to give up her beliefs just for me.
  • Equality - I firmly believe that both the individuals are equal in all ways in a relationship. I will be happy to cook and clean every alternate day as long as she shares the same responsibilities as I do. It is important for her to understand, that on the same token, she will not get any extra concession just because she belongs to the fairer sex.
  • Ambitious and Career Oriented - Should have her own goals in life and must strive towards achieving them. Also, must understand my goals and should be supportive in achieving those.
  • Presentable - Need not be a beauty queen, but good looking, presentable and be conscious about her looks and fashion. Should know how to take care of herself and her looks. Cleanliness is an absolute must because I am a cleanliness freak. A big plus is she plays a sport or exercises regularly and is tireless in bed. Should be good in bed and not shy.
  • Extrovert - Definitely should be outgoing and be able to socialize and be comfortable with people. Must have passon for something, be it music, dance, anything.
  • Understanding - and compromising, any relation needs compromises, but it is a two sided coin. She should be able to understand this and work with me on anything. I will gladly go and kill myself at the opera or a play for her, but she should be happy to come to a soccer match with me as well.
  • Religious belifs - Must respect my religious beliefs, which are none. I am happy to respect her religious beliefs, whatever they maybe, but on the same token, she should respect that I am an Atheist and will always remain one. I hate when people try to push you towards religion but don't want you to push them away from it. Ideally should either be an atheist or not believe heavily in religion and should never bug me about it..
  • Travel, socializing - Must love travel as much as I do, should have a desire to see the whole world and must not be afraid to try different experiences in life. She should love clubbing, dancing and socializing. She should love unplanned drives in the night and instinctive unplanned vacations.
  • Adventurous and energetic - Speaks for itself, should stand along with in all activities, be it skydiving, bungee jumping, cave diving, biking or kayaking in the Antarctic. She should be enthusiastic and mischievous, I don't mind if we end up in jail together.

Less Important qualities

Involved with Science and Technology
Should be a good reader, preferably Science-fiction
Hardcore Gamer, I love my Xbox

And finally the mother of all qualities
Should love me unconditionally as an individual without any expectations
If I get that I am happy to compromise on most of the above qualities, most.

All nationalities, colors, races, religions welcome. However I do discriminate on sex, strictly females only.

I know the list is long and it’s impossible to get all this in a single individual, but it was supposed to be about a perfect partner right. No wait, it was about a perfect lover; lover eh, that list is short, she should be Alicia Silverstone.

As the custom says, I have to pass the tag on, wouldn’t it be convenient to pass it back to those who tagged me in the first place. Here it comes people..

Varun - Long time friend and someone I love arguing with.
DestinyLaw – Old schoolmate
DesiMaharaja - Ditto as above
Kuki - My sister, though it will be a while before she will pick it up I am sure

People who do not blog
Bantu - Third time tagged, hopefully he will pick it up soon
Bhumi – One of the closest persons to me
Janak - Looooooong time friend
Parth - Old friend now lost somewhere in the alternate universe

One thing I must point out though, that I went through quite a few blogs who wrote about this, and not a single one of those mentioned love, Strange eh. 

10 comments on My Perfect Lover

  1. varun
    Mon, 2006-03-20 15:00

    Pigs can fly.
    Varun is a genius at Math.
    Pratik is not absent-minded.
    JhQuest is a cleanliness freak.
    Enough said :-)

    Varun

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    Email: varunvnair gmail com

  2. Destinylaw (not verified)
    Mon, 2006-03-20 15:59

    "One thing I must point out though, that I went through quite a few blogs who wrote about this, and not a single one of those mentioned love, Strange eh."

    Good observation!! I think the answer to your question is that most of us expect and take for granted that there will be love in the relationship...after you pointed out that most blogs forgot to mention "love", I realized that there are so many things that we just take for granted that our life-partner will have.. but thats why the laundry list doesn't suffice..

    BTW is there such a thing as "unconditional love"?? As i understand it unconditional love is that you could do anything in the world and the other person will love you back... cheating on your spouse, murdering someone, abusing someone...etc. the list goes on.. even a mother would not be able to unconditionally love their child under extreme circumstances... what do you think?? Just wondering.

  3. varun
    Mon, 2006-03-20 16:46

    Unconditional love? What is that? You just wrote a post about the qualities you want in your lover/partner... how can you expect unconditional love when your love itself is 'conditional'?

    Varun

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    Email: varunvnair gmail com

  4. Destinylaw (not verified)
    Mon, 2006-03-20 17:23

    Hehe.. i think Varun has a point...

  • JhQuest
    Mon, 2006-03-20 22:43
     Something like unconditional love is impossible, but so is a perfect partner, since I was penning everything about a perfect partner, I thought I would include this as well.

    I seriously thing love cannot be quantified and words cannot define a partner. That’s why I said this tag business is funny. I do not know what a perfect partner or love is but what I know for sure is that it isn’t just a bunch of qualities.

    ‘Bout I being a cleanliness freak, it’s as hard to believe for me as it is for you, but it is true. It is amazing how much we change with time, I wonder  what time has in store for us.

  • Shantanu (not verified)
    Tue, 2006-03-21 05:55

    DUDE!!

    You have put "tireless and good in bed" under "Presentable"!!!!????

    HaHa! That's hillarious ! :)
    However, I must commend your talent in putting it in such subtle words so as to make it "presentable" ! LOL

  • varun
    Tue, 2006-03-21 14:05

    I think he tried to sneak it in under an innocuous topic... but you caught him!

    Varun

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    Blog: ThoughtfulChaos
    Email: varunvnair gmail com

  • JhQuest
    Tue, 2006-03-21 14:52

    Dude, couldn't find anywhere else to classify it and since I was talking about looks under presentable, thought that would be a good place to put it. But isn't it obvious, you want your partner to give you a good sex life considering that she is the only person you are going to have sex with for the remaining part of your life.

  • Shantanu (not verified)
    Wed, 2006-03-22 01:54

    you have a point.

    but it's still hillarious you put it under "presentable" :)

  • Shantanu (not verified)
    Fri, 2006-03-24 06:55

    Picked up your tag here.

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